If only offsetof() is needed: include stddef.h instead.

When structmember.h is used, add a comment explaining that
PyMemberDef is used.

The bulk of this patch was generated automatically with:

    for name in \
        PyObject_Vectorcall \
        Py_TPFLAGS_HAVE_VECTORCALL \
        PyObject_VectorcallMethod \
        PyVectorcall_Function \
        PyObject_CallOneArg \
        PyObject_CallMethodNoArgs \
        PyObject_CallMethodOneArg \
    ;
    do
        echo $name
        git grep -lwz _$name | xargs -0 sed -i "s/\b_$name\b/$name/g"
    done

    old=_PyObject_FastCallDict
    new=PyObject_VectorcallDict
    git grep -lwz $old | xargs -0 sed -i "s/\b$old\b/$new/g"

and then cleaned up:

- Revert changes to in docs & news
- Revert changes to backcompat defines in headers
- Nudge misaligned comments

Replace direct access to PyObject.ob_type with Py_TYPE().

Propagate unexpected errors (like MemoryError and KeyboardInterrupt) to user.